“Have you spoken to your parents about this?” I asked.
“No” she replied.
The sacrifices one makes for their children are easy to conceptualise and state. The indescribable joy and meaning they bring, not so. She came from a family with four girls. I was hoping her parents could help her understand the latter and not let the former have full reign over her mind in deciding whether to have an abortion.
Logic and reality aside, one must never forget one is dealing with two people. A child, at their most vulnerable. A mother with hopes and fears. And it is often an atmosphere of fear which clouds such decisions.
She went on to say that her parents were very traditional. Understandably, she feared their reaction. Abortion seemed like solution to the whole situation. So it seemed.
“Are you ever going to tell your parents about this?” I asked. After some consideration, she said she would.
“When? When would you tell them?” This showed her another reality she had not previously thought of. When would she tell her parents if she went ahead with an abortion? After birthing her second child? Or when she’s in the midst of saying goodbye, when her parents are about to die? Or would she instead try to keep it a secret, bearing the troubled reality of it all alone for the rest of her life?
I was there to help her, whatever the outcome but this wasn’t an easy versus hard decision. It was a hard versus harder decision with the harder being abortion.
A False Solution
Abortion. It’s often peddled as a solution but it isn’t. It isn’t in theory or in practice.
It’s promoted as the only solution for continuing one’s career.
It’s promoted as the only solution for rape victims. But when exactly the type of person such a “solution” would have been pushed on says it isn’t, (at 12 years old) take note.
It’s often promoted as a woman’s right but in reality, it takes rights away from them.
A woman’s right to keep her child is eroded by a cultural expectation that she can (and sometimes is expected) to abort.
A women’s right to be cared for by unduly burdening women as the “abortion solution” enables a segment of the male population to absolve themselves of their responsibilities.
A women’s right to proper care rather than being sold the lie that they are being cared for.
The right to life for baby girls all over the world faced with gender selective abortions.
Abortion, it’s a problem pretending to be a solution.
